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   OPINION: Toxic parents hurt children

          By ; Emmanuel Kiptoo

Why are our parents so toxic? What do they gain from calling their children names and shaming them for making independent choices?

Through the reels on TikTok, Facebook and Twitter, I came across posts that perfectly captured the strained relationships many young adults, especially women, have issues with their parents when it comes to moving out.

For parents, a daughter moving out is often equated with irresponsibility, immorality or rebellion. Instead of taking it as an ideal reason or step towards adulthood, parents assume the worst.

It is deeply frustrating how African parents impose their own insecurities and past regrets onto their children. Maybe they regret their own choices from when they were younger.

Having open discussions about personal growth and responsibility , they assume that we will repeat the worst patterns.It is exhausting to be constantly doubted , to have our choices questioned before we make them.

Dealing with toxic parents can leave deep emotions scars that persist to adulthood . When parents use shame and threats instead of conversation , they push their children away.

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